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ನಮಸ್ಕಾರ  ·  नमस्ते  ·  வணக்கம்  ·  Hello

Talk to someone who has already been where you are.

Bujji's Ear is one woman and a small circle of volunteers in Bengaluru. We listen properly, and then we help you work out what to do next — no lectures, no forms, no rush.

FREE  ·  9 AM–9 PM, EVERY DAY  ·  YOU DON'T HAVE TO GIVE YOUR NAME

two women talking, warm daylight

You can come to us about anything

Nothing here is too small, and nothing is too late. If it's keeping you awake, it's worth a call.

Violence at home

From a husband, a partner, in-laws or your own family. Hitting, threats, being locked in, being cut off from money.

Pressure from the family

Dowry demands, constant blame, being told to adjust and stay quiet, decisions made about your life without you.

A marriage you don't want

Being pushed into an engagement, a date already fixed, your studies stopped for it. We have helped girls stop this.

Money and work

No income of your own, debt in your name, needing a job or a skill. We know who is hiring and who trains for free.

Raising children alone

School admissions, maintenance, custody, landlords who won't rent to a single mother. Practical help, one step at a time.

Your rights

What the law actually gives you, what a complaint involves, and what it doesn't. Plain Kannada or plain English, your choice.

Or nothing in particular

Some women call because there is no one at home they can say a true sentence to. That is a good enough reason.

"But is it really that bad?"

Most women who call us waited years, because nobody had hit them yet, or because they were told this is just how marriage is. Some of these may sound familiar.

He decides what you may spend, and you have to account for every hundred rupees.

Your salary goes into an account you cannot touch, or your jewellery has quietly disappeared.

You check your phone before he does, and delete things that would be twisted against you.

Visits to your mother have to be earned, and your friends have slowly stopped calling.

Nothing is ever thrown at you — it is thrown near you, and then you are told you are imagining things.

Sex is not something you are asked about. Being married is treated as the answer.

Your in-laws bring up what your family did or didn't give, years after the wedding.

Any one of these is enough to call. You do not need bruises, and you do not need to be leaving.

Our promise

What you tell us stays with us.

We do not tell your family, your husband, your employer or the police anything — not unless you ask us to, and not before you are ready.

We don't keep a file on you. No address, no photograph, nothing written down that could be found. If you'd rather not say your name, don't.

You decide what happens next. We will tell you honestly what your options look like, including the hard parts — and then we'll go at your pace, even if that means waiting a year.

portrait of the founder
Who is behind this

"I had no one to ask. That is the whole reason this exists."

Fifteen years ago our founder sat in a police station in this city with two children and no idea what she was allowed to ask for. Women started calling her once word got round. She has been picking up the phone ever since.

Women who called

Told with permission. Names, neighbourhoods and details have been changed so that nobody can be recognised.

"I only wanted to know if I was allowed to open my own bank account."

She was. We stayed on the phone through the paperwork, and she called again four months later to say she had saved enough for a deposit. She is still married and says she sleeps better.

37, GARMENT WORKER, EAST BENGALURU

"My engagement was fixed for June and my exams were in May."

We met her aunt first, then her father. It took five weeks and no police. She finished her degree; the wedding was postponed by two years and then quietly dropped.

19, STUDENT, NEAR MYSURU ROAD

"Nobody would rent to me once they heard I had left my husband."

Eleven house visits, two of them with a volunteer who spoke to the owner. She and her son have been in that flat for three years now, and she stood as a guarantor for another woman last month.

41, SINGLE MOTHER, SOUTH BENGALURU

Calling about someone else?

You don't have to be the one it is happening to.

A sister, a colleague, a neighbour, the woman who works in your house. Call and ask us what to say and what not to say — pushing her to leave usually backfires, and we can tell you why.

Do tell her you believe her, and that you will still be there whatever she decides.

Do keep a spare key, a bag, or ₹2,000 of hers at your place.

Don't confront him, and don't give her a deadline.

Getting help, step by step

There is no waiting list and no intake process. You reach us, we talk, and we go from there.

Fastest

Call us

9 AM to 9 PM, every day including Sundays. A woman always answers.

080 4718 2200
Quietest

WhatsApp

Message any time. Say as little as you like — even just "hi". We reply within a few hours.

98450 00000
In person

Meet us

We sit with women in a quiet room in Jayanagar, or somewhere near you that feels safe. Ask on the call.

BY APPOINTMENT ONLY

What happens when you call

01

You talk, we listen

No questionnaire. Start wherever you want, including in the middle. Cry if you need to; we are not in a hurry.

02

Is anyone in danger tonight?

If yes, that comes first — a safe place to sleep, a bag ready, a neighbour who can be told. Everything else can wait until tomorrow.

03

We lay out the choices honestly

What each road costs — money, time, family, and how it usually goes in real life. Including the choice to change nothing for now.

04

You are not left to do it alone

We introduce you to a lawyer, a counsellor, a shelter or a hiring manager we personally know. Someone comes with you to the first appointment if you want.

We can

  • Listen, for as long as it takes
  • Explain your rights in plain words
  • Connect you to lawyers, counsellors and shelters
  • Help you find work or training
  • Come with you to a station, court or office
  • Help you make a safety plan for the house

We can't

  • Act as your lawyer in court
  • Give you cash directly
  • Do anything without your say-so
  • Promise a particular outcome

If you are in danger right now, call 112, or the women's helpline 181. Then call us.

A plan you can make tonight

You do not have to be leaving to do any of this. Most of it takes twenty minutes and makes you safer whether you stay or go.

Photograph your papers

Aadhaar, PAN, marriage certificate, children's birth certificates and school records, bank passbook, property or jewellery bills, any medical report. Email them to yourself at an address he doesn't know, then delete the photos from your gallery.

Keep something aside

Even ₹500 a month, held by your mother, a friend or in a small post office account. Money of your own is what buys you time to think.

One person, one word

Agree a plain sentence with a neighbour or sister — "have you seen my blue dupatta?" — that means come over now, or call me back in five minutes. Practise it once.

Know your exit

Which room has a door that locks and a window. Which way out avoids the kitchen. Where the spare key is. Avoid rooms with knives or the gas cylinder when an argument starts.

A bag somewhere else

Two sets of clothes for you and the children, a charger, medicines, the papers, some cash. Keep it at a friend's or a relative's house, not in your own cupboard.

Write down what happens

Date, what was said, what was done, who saw it. Keep it in an email draft to yourself, not on paper at home. If you ever need a case, this is what makes it stand up.

Others in Bengaluru who help

Use these directly if you'd rather not talk to us. Verify numbers before you rely on them — services move.

Women's Helpline

Government line, 24 hours, all languages. Can send police or an ambulance.

181

One Stop Centre

Police, medical, legal aid, counselling and up to five nights' shelter under one roof. Bengaluru Urban and Rural.

181 · ask for OSC

Protection Officer

Every district has one under the Domestic Violence Act. They file the application for a protection or residence order — free.

Via 181 or DC office

Legal Services Authority

A free lawyer, by right, for any woman regardless of income. District court complex.

15100

Mental health support

Tele-MANAS, the national line, free counselling in Kannada and English at any hour.

14416

Shelters

Sakhi and Swadhar homes take women with children. We know which ones are decent — please ask us first.

Call us

Staying safe online

If someone checks your phone

Clear this visit

Chrome on Android: the three dots → History → Clear browsing data → "Last hour". On an iPhone: Settings → Safari → Clear History and Website Data.

Better still, browse privately

Open an Incognito or Private tab before you visit us. Nothing is stored when you close it — and a suddenly empty history is itself noticeable.

Calls and messages

Save our number under an ordinary name — a tailor, a school, an aunt. Delete the WhatsApp chat after you read our reply. Or borrow a friend's phone.

About

Why it is called Bujji's Ear

Bujji was our founder's grandmother's name for her — little one. When she was small and frightened, her grandmother would say: come, tell me, I have two good ears and all evening.

That is the whole idea. Most women who reach us have already been told by everyone around them to adjust, to think of the family, to not make it a big issue. Almost nobody has simply asked them what happened and then believed them.

We are not a large organisation and we do not pretend to be. There is one woman who answers the phone most days, a handful of volunteers who give evenings and weekends, and a network of lawyers, counsellors, shelters and employers across Bengaluru that has grown one favour at a time over fifteen years.

founder at her desk

What we believe

You are the one who decides

Not us, not your family. Many women choose to stay, and we keep helping them just the same.

Nobody is turned away

Any caste, any religion, any income, married or not, from this city or newly arrived for work. Trans women too.

Honesty over comfort

We will not promise you that a case is quick or that relatives will come round. You deserve the real picture.

The family is not the enemy

Where it is safe, we work with mothers, brothers and in-laws. Sometimes that changes more than a complaint would.

Confidentiality, plainly

No files, no register, no photographs, nothing published about you. We never speak to your family or your employer unless you ask us to. Volunteers are trained and bound to this before they ever answer a call.

Why you won't see faces here

We don't put the women we help, or most of our volunteers, on this website — for their safety. If you want to know who you would be talking to, ask on the call and we will tell you honestly.

Support us

Keep the phone answered

We take no government money and charge no woman a rupee. Everything runs on small monthly gifts from people who live here.

Where the money went last year

71% legal fees, counselling and emergency stays  ·  18% the phone line  ·  11% travel and the room in Jayanagar. Accounts sent to every donor.

₹500

a month

Keeps the helpline open for a full day, including the Sunday calls nobody else takes.

₹2,000

a month — most useful

One woman's first consultation with a lawyer, and the bus fare to get her there.

₹6,000

a month

A safe place to sleep for a mother and her children for two weeks, at no notice.

Time

volunteer

Lawyers, counsellors, Kannada and Tamil speakers, and women who can simply sit and listen well.

Give by UPI or bank

UPI ID

bujjisear@upi

Account

Bujji's Ear Trust
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Indian donors get 80G relief. Write to us and we will send the receipt and the year's accounts.

Or give what money can't

Tell one woman that we exist. Most of the people who call us heard about us from a neighbour, a maid, a colleague or a nurse — never from the internet.

hello@bujjisear.org

Volunteer with us

We are small on purpose, so we take people slowly and train everyone before they speak to a woman. Expect a conversation, not a form letter.

Lawyers

One pro bono consultation a month, family and criminal law. This is our biggest shortage.

Counsellors and psychiatrists

Trauma-informed, ideally in Kannada or Tamil. Sliding scale is fine — free is not required.

Phone listeners

One evening a week, from your own home. Six weeks of training first. No professional background needed — patience and discretion are the job.

Employers

Real openings for women restarting work — housekeeping, tailoring, data entry, kitchens, care work, retail.

Accompaniment

Sitting with a woman at a police station or court for an afternoon. Daytime availability required.

Thank you — we have it.

Someone will write to you within a week. If you don't hear from us, please chase — we are volunteers too, and things do get missed.

Tell us about yourself

Spread the word

Almost nobody finds us on the internet

Women hear about us from a neighbour, a colleague, a nurse, a tailor, the woman who cleans the next flat. So the most useful thing you can do is put our number in front of one person who may need it — or in a place where she is alone for ten minutes.

Forward this on WhatsApp

Save the card and send it to your building group, your family group, your team. It says nothing about anybody who forwards it.

ನಮಸ್ಕಾರ · नमस्ते · வணக்கம்

Someone will listen. Whatever it is.

Free, confidential support and guidance for women in Bengaluru. You don't have to give your name.

080 4718 2200

9 AM – 9 PM DAILY · BUJJI'S EAR

RIGHT-CLICK OR LONG-PRESS TO SAVE AS AN IMAGE

Or just send these words

Sometimes a message from a person you know works better than a poster.

If you ever want to talk to someone outside the family — about anything at all, not only a big problem — there are women in Bengaluru who do only this. Free, and they don't tell anyone. 080 4718 2200, any day between 9 and 9. Keeping the number, just in case.

One thing to be careful about

Don't send it to one woman alone if her phone might be checked — send it to a group she is in, or say it out loud instead. A message like this found on her phone can make things worse for her.

Print and put up

A5, black on any paper. Ask a clinic, a salon, a tailor, a PG hostel, an anganwadi, a garment unit, a temple or church noticeboard, or the wall of a public toilet — women read those alone.

Is there something you can't tell anyone?

ಯಾರಿಗೂ ಹೇಳಲಾಗದ ಸಂಗತಿ ಇದೆಯೇ?

Free and confidential. Any woman, any problem. You need not give your name.

080 4718 2200

9 AM – 9 PM DAILY · BUJJI'S EAR

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Tear-off strips at the bottom

She can take the number without being seen writing it down, and without the poster disappearing.

Kannada first where you can

In garment units, construction sites and government hospitals, print the Kannada, Tamil or Hindi version. Ask us and we will send it.

Ask before you stick

A poster the shop owner agreed to stays up for months. One stuck up quietly comes down in a day.

Want a stack of them?

Write to hello@bujjisear.org and tell us where you'll put them. We'll post you fifty printed, at no cost.

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